how to permanently quit addictions!!
I am a reformed alcoholic. I am a reformed chain smoker. I am an
ex-fat person. I am also not selling anything. My only wish now
is to help people by passing on my knowledge; I guess this
sounds too good to be true. When you have really nearly died a
few times, money takes on a sort of reduced role in your
thinking. Make no mistake about it, we are all going to die,
even you will die one day. When you are young this seems a long
long way away, I’m fifty now, and it sure seems a little closer
to hand than it did. So it makes sense to make the time I have
left quality time, free of drink smoking and obesity; after all
it is easier to get older if you feel fitter, than if you are
ruining your body daily. I wish I had started earlier in life,
YOU CAN.
You may think I have superhuman will-power to quit drinking and
smoking (and gambling and all other excesses). To a certain
extent that is true; I have a great deal of will power, but I
also have a method, a way of thinking, which helps.
For some reason, and it may have been a good one at the time,
you have a craving, an overpowering addiction. You love
something more than you love yourself at the present time.
Think “myself or my health.”
In this “New Labour” “Tony Blair” type world, certainly in
Britain, everything is explainable in terms of something else
more convenient. It doesn’t detract from the plain fact that the
Emporer really hasn’t got any clothes on at all. In short, it’s
not stretching the truth, it’s really a very big lie(s).
This is what you are currently doing to yourself, you are living
out a lie in order to placate yourself, in order to make what
you are doing palatable. What you are really doing is killing
yourself a lot quicker, and a lot more painfully than is really
necessary; and by and large no-one gives a damn whether you do
or you don’t; they are too busy with themselves to really and
truly bother about YOU. By and large this is correct. The few
people that possibly do care either havn’t a clue how to help,
or are simply hampered by the realisation that it is only YOU
who can cure it.
There are really no excuses: If you are drinking too much you
are a pain of a drunk. If you are smoking too much you are a
pain of a smoker. If you are gambling too much you are a
liability, just as you are if you are on drugs. You probably
nodded to all these, and felt agreement, so why don’t you
realise that you are putting an intolerable strain on the
people around you, to say nothing of the strain on the Health
Professionals.
WHY?
Because you are too self-indulgant to stop for a minute enjoying
yourselves to see if you are bothering other people, too wrapped
up in yourselves to care about others. There is no magic formula
to giving up an addiction: You stop doing what it is that is
costing you, and every one around you a fortune. You stop
paying out what you havn’t got on things YOU DON’T REALLY NEED.
To break that down further, in order to do this you will need to
changeyour whole way of life, permanently. Make no mistake, if
you are really and truly HAPPY with what you are doing, then
fine, go ahead and do it, but acknowledge that most things you
really enjoy overdoing kill you slowly, and painfully, and most
things done to excess bring attendant guilt. Stop reading now
if you don’t want to quit for good and all or else you are
wasting someone else’s bandwidth who has what it takes when you
have not got the moral fibre.
What it takes is a modicum of will-power combined with a hell of
a lot of common sense. I have had a lot of addictions, I am an
excessive natured person. I find the first step in losing any of
them is to look at them as a phase I have grown out of. I have
matured to such an extent I no longer need their crutch to carry
me onwards.
Generally speaking, most addictions are to make up for or act as
a distraction from the world as it is. We have to learn to face
up to life instead of running away from it, and hiding behind
false barriers built up on the shaky foundations of fleeting
happiness bought at great actual and mental cost via addiction.
We have to move on and grow up and mature; Much as we ourselves
look at kids and feel, “that’s wrong, but they’ll grow out of it
in time”. And they usually do, don’t they, because they see that
long-term they are better off without doing what they are
doing. Why don’t we tell them at the time? Because we know
they’ll tend to do the opposite, and that only they can learn to
be wise in the fullness of time.We can but advise, and sow the
seeds.
Thus it is with ourselves.
We have established that we can expect NO HELP FROM OTHERS. Why
should anyone else help us anyway, it’s our problem. If someone
came to you with “Ive got a terrible problem with my lawyer, and
my cat isn’t eating, my mother-in-law is being funny and I’ve
got the results of my x-rays tomorrow” you might well be a
little concerned, but I bet your first thought would really and
truly be “how can I get away as quickly as I possibly can
without causing offence? “.
So why the hell should others be expected to listen to you
bleating on about helping you to quit your problem.
IT’S YOUR PROBLEM.
Also you will never stop doing anything you really LIKE DOING.
You have to really want to stop for good and ever, not just when
you attain a certain level, because you will only gradually go
back to what you were before, a PAIN.
If you hear an alcoholic say after a year off the booze “I’m ok
for a pint now” what do you REALLY think will happen if he/she
has a pint/short?? You know as well as I do.
So really you have to :
a) Realise it is just you that matters and does anything b)
realise you have to really WANT to quit c) Realise no-one else
is going to do it for you magically. d) realise that it was a
phase you had to live through e) realise that it will definitely
kill you, very very painfully f) realise that you will have
gained from your descent into hell
There are many ways to quit addictions for different people. If
you are reading this they have probably all failed.
Wrong.
YOU HAVE FAILED. MOST of the methods work if you WANT them to
work. I suggest that you treat it as a phase of your life, and
you have learned from this phase and wish to move on and prove
to everyone that you aren’t stupid. Because anyone who knows
that something is killing them and alienating people, and still
does it, is stupid; has not learned one iota from what they have
done have not progressed one jot in their mindset.
Water, pure little tap water, fills you up and is needed more
than you think. Eighty per cent of the human body is water, so
it makes sense to drink it. This is a good start to purifying
your body and mind. Drink a few litres a day. And KEEP BUSY.
Remember, I make zero money out of this article, but it is
probably the best common sense you’ll ever read.
Most articles you will read have a hidden agenda, TO MAKE MONEY
OUT OF ADDICTED PEOPLE. If you quit forever, they’d lose your
money in the future, wouldn’t they? They plan on you quitting
EVERY YEAR. Why not just do it ONCE; I sure as hell would not
want to quit smoking and drinking on a yearly basis!!
WHAT I GAIN:
I just get to have a few more people visiting my website, if you
stop for a second or two to read this article, as I get a kick
out of getting visitors from all over the world, and seeing my
site visitor numbers rise. I guess you could think of it as an
obsession, or a phase I’ll probably grow out of in time!
But it is also very nice if you can help people, and I’ve been
places you really do not want to go, and had things done to me
you really and truly WOULD NOT LIKE. I SHOULD BE DEAD, I am not.
We all KNOW what we should and shouldn’t be doing by and large,
and no-one can make a difference but ourselves.
It is a sad fact of modern life that everyone expects to be able
to do what the hell they like and then someone will bail them
out at the last minute.
Fact is, if you don’t quit, you’ll die young, in pain and alone.
YOUR CHOICE, YOUR LIFE,
but you WILL die sooner than most.
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