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We’ve probably all heard the famous movie quip, “why don’t you wait here while I slip into something a little more comfortable”. It’s a comment to make most of our ears (particularly male ones!) stand up on end with the anticipation that the film has actually taken a turn for the better. In real life however, slipping ‘into’ something more comfortable can often lead to outcomes that are anything other than desirable.

To create a compelling life, often what we need to do is ’slip out of comfort’ and into something a little more challenging, a little more exciting and a lot more rewarding!

What is the ‘Comfort Zone’?

The ‘Comfort Zone’ is a situation where a particular level of ‘non strenuous’ effort produces a fairly certain and familiar result, albeit in most cases, a pretty average one.

As our species evolves, we seem to be preoccupied with living in the comfort zone. I mean who can imagine the extreme torture one might experience from getting up off the couch to change channels or to walk down the street to pick up a pizza! The sad thing is that this state of lethargy seeps into the way we live the rest of our lives.

The attraction of the comfort zone can be quite compelling because of the common human fear of the unknown. Lets face it, when it really comes down to it, most of us don’t really like surprises. A probable average result is often much preferable to the possibility of an outstanding but uncertain one.

What most people don’t realise is that getting out of the ‘Comfort Zone’ gives you the opportunity to slip into the arena of the ‘Pleasure Zone’.

Why aren’t more people successful?

I heard a very successful entrepreneur and motivational speaker asked the question “Why aren’t more people successful?” He responded by saying that it’s “because it takes real skill to die of starvation in countries such as the UK, US and Australia.”

I actually found this statement to be quite profound. I mean how many people do you encounter on a daily basis that consistently give much less than what they are capable of but are still able to hold down their jobs, put food on the table and make their mortgage repayments? Could you see this as a possibility in less fortunate, less developed nations?

One shot.

Until someone manages to convince me otherwise, I can only assume that we get one shot at life (the Universe is a fascinating place so I am open to suggestions on that one!). Time is running out for all of us. We have one shot and one shot only to experience the magic and beauty of all this life has to offer.

What would you do?

What would you do if you had a day to live? How about a week? What about a month, a year, a decade? We are all going to die someday. Why not be that somebody who can look back over your years and smile as you say to yourself “you know something, I gave it everything.”

4 Steps to a Less Comfortable but More Compelling Future.

1. Think deeply about what your special gifts are and what you love doing most.

2. Think about how you could structure your life to spend more time developing, cultivating and sharing your gifts.

3. Experiment putting aside your comfort seeking behavioural patterns.

4. Get out there and be the best you can be.

Copyright Damien Senn 2005. All rights reserved.

Damien Senn is a Life and Business Coach as well as a fully qualified Chartered Accountant. He helps professionals, artists and entrepreneurs create compelling futures.

He is the author of the ‘Senn-Sational Success Journal’ and has developed his own coaching model called the ‘Senn-Sational Success System’.

For your free life coaching tool ‘101 things to do before you die’, please click the following link: http://www.senn-sational.com/freeresources.htm

Listen to the salutation to the dawn, Look to this day for it is
life, the very life of life. In its brief course lie all the
verities and realities of our existence. ,

The bliss of growth, the splendor of beauty, For yesterday is
but a dream and tomorrow is only a vision, But today well lived
makes every yesterday a dream of happiness and every tomorrow a
vision of hope. Look well therefore to this day. Such is the
salutation to the dawn. ~Kalidisa, Sanskrit text

It is Monday morning, for many the start of a new work week.
Take the time this Monday, and for the next few Mondays, to keep
a record of how many “I hate Monday” type statements you hear.

How do you feel about Monday?

Reflect for a moment. Do that many “bad” things really happen on
Monday? I would be willing to bet your answer is “No”. If your
answer happens to be “Yes”, then you need to start looking at
your attitude and expectations. Life has a funny way of living
up or down to our expectations. No matter the date or day of the
week the calendar says it is, start each day expecting it to be
your greatest day ever.

Yesterday, Tomorrow and Today in Perspective

It is very important to understand the relationship between
yesterday, tomorrow and today.

Yesterday

We cannot go back in time and change or redo yesterday, but here
are three things you can do with your past; First, reflect on
your past successes. Relive them with as much clarity and
emotion as you can. Use these memories to build your
self-confidence, self-esteem and to create an “I Can” attitude.
Second, learn from your past mistakes and failures. Take full
responsibility for them, and be grateful for them. Yes, I said
to be grateful for your failures. You cannot know which way up
is, unless you know which way is down is. Third, release and let
go all negative emotional baggage from your past. This is the
toughest of the three to do, and the most important to work on.
Carrying this weight will, at the very least, slow you down, and
it can stop you completely.

Tomorrow

The future is where all your dreams, hopes and goals live. Your
potential lies ahead of you, not behind you. Tomorrow you have a
clean slate, an unblemished record, a brand new beginning. Take
care when building your vision of the future, it is where you
will spend the rest of your life. Most importantly, by creating
your vision of tomorrow, by having dreams and goals to reach
for, you give meaning and purpose to today.

Today

Today is the most important day of your life! Yesterday is gone.
By the time tomorrow arrives it will be today. Today you are
creating yesterday’s memories. Today you are laying the
foundation for tomorrow.

Everything you do, you do now. Everything else is either
something you did do, or something you are going to do.
Everything you do either takes you closer to your dreams and
goals or it moves you away from them. Every day counts.

Make a habit of taking positive daily actions. Take steps daily
that will move you closer to your dreams and goals. Plan your
day based on your principles, values and what matters most to
you, and then work your plan. Don’t sit by and wait to “have” a
great day, take action to “make” it a great day. Take care of
today. If you do this, yesterday and tomorrow will take care of
themselves.

Make Every Day a Great Day

Without getting into the core basics of philosophy, I will make a few statements about happiness. Happiness is probably the most sought after emotion, and the hardest to retain on an ongoing basis. We all can experience moments of joy that make us happy.

I have found that I am most consistently happy when I am trying to help others to find happiness. The word “service” comes to mind.

In our own relationships, we are the happiest when we are doing things for each other. And they don’t even need to be big or grandiose things. Just little things. Things like a simple compliment for a thoughtful act. A word about how dinner went so well. “How was your day?”…and then listen to what they say.

It is being together when you are together., and wishing you were together when you are not. It is always praising your partner and never saying anything bad about your partner to anyone.

It is encouraging one another to higher education. Encouragement to improve talents and skills and hobbies. Encouragement to follow one’s dreams. Dreams are the catalyst of real passion.

Real passion does not happen over night. Real passion is not a destination. It is a journey. A journey one cannot follow, with any degree of true satisfaction, if they are on the path alone. Real passion was meant to be a shared journey.

Give a simple “I Love You”. Don’t assume they know it. SAY IT. OFTEN. Now, don’t kid yourself. All relationships are a continual “work-in-progress”. There are the ups and the downs. The good times and the not-so-good. We must decide, for ourselves, that we are in this for the duration.

Look for and give the “glance across the room” to your partner. Give them a kiss in the twilight. Take a casual walk together in the cool of the afternoon, “just because”. Brush the fingertips of your hand across their shoulders or down their arm as you are talking to them or as you pass them by, whether in private, or public.

Give them your smile; your warm, radiant, and sincere smile.

These will all repay you immeasurably…and often!

Bob Curtis has been writing articles, short fiction and poetry for over 30 years. He has been a personal counselor and confidant for much of that time for many individuals. He is currently the managing director of people4people.blogspot.com, and is the president of Nexus Publishing, nexus4u.blogspot.com, in Midvale, Utah.

This is an article submitted for those who are depressed in
their Life. The following can be attributed to de-stress oneself:

1. Emotions are the self-poison that one intakes. So don’t be
very emotional.

2. Being 100% practical always works out tremendously.

3. Never give-up what you have in anticipation of achieving
something in the future.

4. Trusting someone more than required is always dangerous.

5. Getting hurt is easy, but sustaining it is impossible.

6. Always listen to your heart while making decisions. Don’t let
others interfere to avoid regression later.

7. Always be self-dependent, being dependent can cost you more
in terms of mental trauma.

8. To try to forget the unforgettable(s) is a hectic schedule.

9. Nothing is eternal except change.

10. Being sensitive is like weakening your organs.

11. Live up to your present joyfully, you never know what is
there in store for tomorrow.

12. Letting someone take major decisions in your life is nothing
but a blame game.

13. Letting others take decisions on your behalf is foolishness
and blaming them for the repercussions is cowardness.

14. Pen down your feelings on a piece of paper if you don’t have
someone to share the same.

15. Try to avoid giving too-much to the people who are
less-deserving.

16. No one forgets neither the very good thing in their life and
nor the very bad thing in their life.

17. Never get compensated for your self-respect.

18. Do not depend for happiness on others because nobody gives
happiness to anybody. So, pamper yourself and keep yourself
happy in your own way!

19. Try to catch the hard reality of Life when you are depressed.

20. Depressed mood is certainly like a clear mirror image to
understand the hard realities of life.

You can write to me about the problems that you are facing and I
will try to give my piece of advice to you.

We have a relationship with everything in life. We have family, friendship, romantic and business relationships. Basically anything or anyone we come in contact with we’ve developed a relationship with whether it’s a positive one or not. Our personal, professional, family and friends are the most important relationships we will ever have. Within these relationships who do you tend to trust the most? We don’t trust everyone we come into contact with but there are some we trust more than others. How do you decide who to trust and who not to? Here’s a story that helped me clarify this question.

I had the pleasure of having a coaching relationship with Frank who is a popular person in his town and who holds a position of prominence. Most people like Frank and he enjoys spending time with people and as such there are many he calls “friend”. One day we were discussing the importance of mentors or anyone who could be counted on in times of need or doubt. I asked Frank, “What criteria do you use to decide which of the people you trust the most?” The obvious answer would have been his family and the people he’s known the longest and built trust in over time. At least, that’s what I thought Frank would say. Frank said something a little different though.

He said, “The answer to that question is easy. It’s not the people I’ve known the longest, although they might quality but what are most important to me are the people who are willing to be the most honest with me”. He went on to explain. “I’ve had friends I’ve liked but who over time I could not trust. When I needed counsel or an opinion they would tell me what they thought I wanted to hear. While all of that may have sounded good they didn’t realize the more they told me what they thought I’d like; the less sincere they sounded. I simply couldn’t count on them to be honest with me. I think most people in their heart of hearts trust others who are willing to tell them the truth”. “Wow”, I thought. Then I began to look at the people in my own life and what Frank said rang very true. I’ve had personal experience with this as well. I’ve known people who were very kind and supportive which was great! However, these same people were unwilling or unable to be honest and my trust in them would decline.

This caused me to ask myself, “Who do I trust most, the one who tries to cover things up (”misery loves company” type of person) or the one who is willing to tell me the truth; even if it makes me uncomfortable? Frank helped me make the distinction between somebody that “made me feel good” and somebody I trusted.

When you need counsel or help who do you trust most? Do you trust the person who is only interested telling you what you want to hear or the person who is willing to tell you the truth regardless of how you might react?

This is not a matter of who we like or don’t like, it’s a matter of who we tend to believe and trust the most. I think Frank is right. We tend to believe those who are most willing to tell us the truth. It is the truth that allows us to see ourselves in a different light and remove the veil of self-deceit and it is through the light of truth that we grow. Isn’t this the definition of friendship?

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When you invest your time in being a mentee you will be rewarded with accelerated learning and experiences from your mentor. You will learn from and avoid the mistakes that they may have made, learn about your industry, meet great people, form valuable relationships and be able to mentor someone in your future. If your organisation offers a mentoring program, sign up and get involved. If there isn’t a formal mentoring program, suggest one or identify people you would like to learn from and approach them about mentoring you. If you are going to approach someone about being your mentor make sure you present yourself professionally and show your prospective mentor that you are serious and committed by having a mentoring plan in place.

When I chose to become a professional speaker I sought out the most talented Australian speaker I could find. He was accomplished, fantastic presenter, had won many client and industry awards and ran a profitable speaking business. I asked him to mentor me and for 12 months I followed him everywhere. I went to client meetings, sold books for him at the back of the room when he presented, helped him on projects, worked in his office, paid for interstate flights to get uninterrupted discussions during travel time. Spending 12 months with him accelerated my speaking career in an astronomical way, helped me form valuable relationships and also lead to my next exciting career move. I was a dedicated mentee and would do anything to serve and learn.

Have a written agreed guideline. Make an agreement between both parties of the responsibilities and commitments of both parties.

Schedule for 6 months only. This gives you both an agreed timeframe to achieve effective communication and sharing of experience.

Meet monthly. Make a regular time each month for one hour to meet. As the mentee you must fit in with the mentor’s schedule.

Set an agenda. Advise your mentor what you would like to discuss, what challenges you have been facing and any questions you may have. To assist you develop this agenda you may like to keep the list on going through the month so you are very prepared for your meeting.

If can’t meet in person, book a teleconference. You don’t need to meet face to face (especially if your mentor is busy). You should still have an agenda and clear outcomes of what you want from the meeting.

Meet in a location that suits the mentor. Find locations they enjoy being in i.e. the favourite coffee shop, airport lounges or the beach. Make an effort to drive or commute to the location that fits in with their schedule.

Do your homework. Your mentor might give you activities to try or challenges for the next month. Always complete these tasks and report back to your mentor on your success. Don’t waste your mentor’s time or advice.

Promote your mentor to others. If you know of businesses or opportunities for your mentor, always let others know about their skills, achievements and success.

Thank your mentor with the gift of service. You could assist them with a project, help in their business unit, driving them to an event, and take them to the airport. Being a good mentee is all about serving your mentor to create opportunities to draw from their experience.

Do your homework on your mentor. Find out what they like to listen to, what books they like to read, movies they enjoy, family details. This helps you respond to them and also thank them in ways that are important to them.

Maintain confidentiality. Keep all relevant discussions between you and your mentor private. Never disclose to others your discussions.

Make time. Find opportunities to support your mentor and also debrief conversations. If they are driving for long periods of time, keep them company (either face to face or on the phone), if they are flying interstate for the day, go with them and use the uninterrupted time on the plane to gain wisdom and assistance.

Avoid contacting your mentor outside of agreed times. If you both agree you will meet once a month, save all of your discussions for this monthly meeting. If you need to contact them try SMS messaging or email so you don’t interrupt their daily activities.

Try to outdo your mentor. Learn from their experiences, view their templates but always try and develop your own work even better than theirs. If you are successful, you could share your new templates or ideas with them so you can add value to their business by improving on their ideas or systems.

Never ask your mentor “What can I do for you?” Always be creative and find ways to assist them without being asked. Offer to do some data entry in their office, offer to pick them up from the airport instead of them taking a cab, and offer to help recruit staff for their business - find ways to help them without expecting anything in return.

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Always having been a budget conscious person (well, some have called me a tight-wad), I know all about the simple pleasures. Sure it would be great to take long cruises, go to any event I wanted, buy anything I wanted — WAKE UP! Unless you are a multi millionaire you can’t do all that It definitely doesn’t fit in my budget. Instead of being negative because you are “deprived”, think of what you can do.

Take a walk on a bright, sunny day. Notice the flowers. Notice the trees. Don’t just notice the other walkers. SMILE and say “hi” to them. Enjoy the benefits of exercise. You will feel better. It will help you get in better shape. Get out there and move. And, guess what, it doesn’t cost anything. It is absolutely FREE.

Here is another very rewarding thing to do. Volunteer at a child’s school. Offer to tutor a neighborhood child. There is nothing like the pleasure that comes from teaching a child. Other places to help out kids are: Boys and Girls Club, any programs for troubled youth, any youth recreational leagues. If you have a special talent (art, singing, writing) ask at the local middle and high school if there is any way you can help. Help the kids. Doesn’t cost you anything, but how rewarding it is!

At the other end of the age range are senior citizens. Many can certainly benefit from more attention. Many assisted living facilities will allow volunteers to come in. You don’t need any special abilities….except the ability to listen. Having someone to talk to can be the highlight of their day.

I hope this short article will make you stop and think. Don’t be negative because you cannot have all the things you want. Enjoy life! Share with Others. Help Others. You will be rewarded.

Jan Wilhelm has recently become a home business owner. There is nothing to stop anyone from owning their own businesss. You can do it with little or no investment. Your confidence will increase. You will be your own boss. You will learn so many new things.

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Sometimes change is pleasant. A child is born. A new career begins. A goal is accomplished. At other times, a difficult transition brings tough but necessary growing pains.

As we saw on September 11, 2001, change can also be tragic, devastating, and senseless. Yet we slowly heal without forgetting the special people lost or the value they brought to our lives.

In his book, “Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes”, William Bridges pointed out that the outer forms of one’s life can change instantly. Yet our inner reorienting to important relationships and activities is a process that requires time.

When going through life’s inevitable changes, we need to be compassionate with ourselves. The inner self may need to adjust or heal. Self-care is a vital part of making transitions.

William Bridges also suggested that transitions begin with endings, and that we must “let go of the old thing before we can pick up the newnot just outwardly, but inwardly, where we keep our connections to the people and places that act as definitions of who we are.”

However, Stephen Covey wisely said, “People can’t live with change if there’s not a changeless core inside them. The key to the ability to change is a changeless sense of who you are, what you are about, and what you value.”

Deep, changeless connections with special people do not fade when outer forms change, nor should they. Part of that essential inner self-care involves remembering those very loving people who will always inspire us with their values and courage.

Although we will heal from losses and survive tough transitions, it is important to keep and savor the spiritual gifts that others have given to us.

Through the changing times and seasons of life, our golden relationships are not lost. They are there to help guide us. Remember to hold on to those changeless connections that will always be a valuable, inspiring part of your life. They are as close as a thought.

© Copyright by Steve Brunkhorst. All rights reserved. Reprinted from Achieve! 60-Second Nuggets of Inspiration bringing great stories, motivational nuggets, and inspiring thoughts to help you achieve your top potential. Get the next issue by visiting http://www.AchieveEzine.com

As business owners and managers we find ourselves thrust into our position through what is commonly referred to as “Promotion into Incompetence”. We move up through the ranks or start our own businesses based on our technical skills. Little consideration is given to the actual (non technical) skills and mindset required to manage people and run a business effectively.

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If you are having difficulty with something in your life (either personal or in business) it can generally be solved by learning new skills.

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A business coach will assist you to build these essential skills that you need to lead and manage a successful business. They will help you in setting your business development goals and ensure you become more accountable for what should be your most important work, the work of developing your business.

Business Coaches provide you with objective feedback about what you need to do to get your business on track. A healthy business coaching relationship will provide an honest ongoing assessment of your Business Development Activities, assisting you to focus your efforts on the areas that will have the greatest long term positive impact on your business.

Innovations in technology allow you to be involved with coaches from locations around the world. Do some research into the various Business Coaching options available to you. The internet is a great place to start your research.

I am a Business Coaching Client with the E-Myth Mastery course developed around the teachings of Michael Gerber. I can personally recommend the E-Myth Mastery Course and their associated products. The ongoing business development work completed as part of their courses continues to have a massive positive impact on the businesses that I am involved with.

More details about the E-Myth mastery course can be found at their web site: http://www.E-Myth.com

Another excellent provider of Business Coaching is the Action International Group headed by Brad Sugars. More information on their products and services can be found at their web site: http://www.ActionCoaching.com

Select a business coach based on their teaching methods and how their concepts fit in with the way you work. It can be useful to purchase some of their introductory books and audio programs to give you a taste for some of the concepts that they will focus on in the Business Coaching Course.

When evaluating a particular Business Coach ask for several references from coaching clients past and present. Contact the references and ask them questions regarding their experience with the respective Business Coaching Organizations.

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A man was sitting on one side of the road crying. He seemed to be depressed and worried. While another man sat right in front of him but looking somewhere laughing to his heart’s content. But the people who passed by approached the man who was crying and questioned him again and again as to why he looked so sad.

Why were people shocked to find a person in depression and why were they not surprised by the one immersed in laughter? Because man by nature is the embodiment of happiness and sorrow is something which is uncommon to him.

One can laugh at ease when he is peaceful and content at heart. Crying is easy but laughter is tough. In order to laugh one needs to be happy; in order to be happy, he needs to strive for it. In this process, he might need to face the whirlpool of troubles which might lead him to sorrow. But troubles are like passing clouds. When the Sun of realization shines, the clouds of sorrow get shattered and disappear gradually.

‘Laugh and leave anger; Love and live longer’ has to be the sole objective of a human being. There are various kinds of laughter which determine the nature of a person. One is an artificial laughter which has no meaning except as a courtesy. Another is the laughter for time pass, another is to laugh wholeheartedly and the other is uncontrollable laughter either out of extreme happiness or out of happiness over enemy’s defeat. Never laugh at others’ defeat while mounting, you will have to face them while dismounting. Instead give a helping hand to the ones in despair for them to smile at life too.

When we throw a little smile at a person, his mind is filled with happiness. If laughter is thrown and received, the heart is filled with love. Imagine the power of smile and laughter in this mechanical world.

A laughter on a withered face blossoms like a flower spreading the fragrance of love and fun everywhere. But we do not have enough time to laugh . We spend our time in brooding over the problems in our daily life. We do not feel like enjoying the company of a person in sorrow but we feel like joining a person of laughter.

All of us have problems big and small in our lives. Not even a day passes without them. Problems are our eternal shadow no matter what season it is. We can’t avoid all problems but we can avoid some by changing our attitude. For most problems, the solution lies in the change of our attitude. We make a mountain out of an ant-hill. A great being said, “When the only tool you own is a hammer, every problem begins to resemble a nail.” Try to laugh at little problems in the beginning and you will be able to solve it easily. You will gradually get used to laughing at problems big. From then on, you will be a smiling person no matter how big the problem is.

A person is called great when he faces major problems but still maintains stability and a smile on his face. As George Washington Carver said, “When you do the common things in life in an uncommon way, you will command the attention of the world.” Start being optimistic regarding every aspect in your life and all people you come across. Pessimism is the main reason for any problem or illusion. You might doubt as to how it is possible to take negative minded people as positive. At such times, remember one thing. Every being on this earth who you deal with directly or indirectly has something to do with your life lessons. In fact they are not your enemies but your friends indirectly helping you reach your goal of self-realization faster. So smile at your enemies for they are your true friends. In turn, life itself smiles at you at all times. Laughter attracts happiness, for it is contagious. It is your only friend who boosts up your spirits at all times. Invite Laughter into your life. Let it follow your life like a cool shadow for it to act as an interval between two sorrow. Smile your problems and Laugh your life. Short span of happy life is better than saddened longevity.

“Smile is an index of one’s mind while Laughter for one’s soul.” - Sharmila Sanka

I am Sharmila Sanka whose hobby is to write articles to enlighten my mind and that of others. I wrote hundreds of articles, short stories, inspiring quotations and poems.
My articles got published in the news paper - ‘Arkansas Democrat Gazette’ in ARKANSAS.